I have a tendency to share at meetings and I don’t know why.
I’m starting to notice that it takes more energy being a mute than it is to
just be myself. I suffer from copious amounts of social anxiety; hence why my
face gets extremely red each and every time I speak in a volume setting. Who am
I kidding, even in smaller circles I blush like crazy. People notice too; and
they aren’t shy to point it out which makes me turn even more red. It’s alright
though. Sharing in meetings allows me the opportunity to overcome my fear of public speaking.
When I first entered the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous, my
old sponsor had said, “Take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your
mouth; just not in your spoon.” He wanted me to sit down, shut up, and listen.
However, eventually he told me to start sharing as to overcome the anxiety I
was experiencing whenever a brief thought of doing so would occur. I told him I didn’t really know what to say
at times and that I have a fear of not being understood or being seen as a
quote unquote ‘dumb-ass.’ I don’t know why but I need to project myself to
anyone and everyone as someone that is intelligent so I won’t be seen as a
weakness. His response? “Share from your heart, not your thinking.”
How in the hell am I supposed to do that? My heart doesn’t
conjure thoughts nor does it have the capacity to do so. It doesn’t have a mind
of its own. It doesn’t have a conscious and subconscious memory to pick apart
and analyze each and every sentence that I may or may not say. However, the
first time I attempted doing what he suggested the words just sort of flowed
out of my mouth with little or no anxiety involved.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not boasting about any of this. I am
simply expressing how what I am doing for myself that I see as a necessity to
stay alive is helping someone else in their recovery as well. I am only giving
back what was freely given to me. I’m sharing for selfish reasons and am being
selfless in doing so. My previous thinking would only revolve completely around
selfish motives.
I don’t know what it was but my thinking got me exactly
where I am at today. I can think myself to death but I can never speak myself
to death (well I guess that depends on who I’m talking to and what I am saying.)
Joking aside, I am actually excited to share at meetings as opposed to dreading
the thought of actually sharing. If I can help only one person with what I have
to say then I have done my job.
:thumbs up:
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