I feel as if there is a fine line in trying to be productive
and actually being productive. I recently woke up from a nap because that’s
what people in my situation do rather frequently (If they don’t then I
obviously haven’t got the memo yet.) I’m sitting here thinking of a topic to
write on because my coffee hasn’t kicked in yet. Lo and behold I look for
outside help in kick starting something inside of me that is dying to escape
from my inner self. Knowledge is meant to be shared and if I can reach at least
one person then I have successfully done my job.
I mentioned this before in one of my previous posts, but I
rarely reached out for help during my earlier attempts at recovery. I would set
myself up with solid contacts in people that I could call if shit went south
but I would never act on those safety nets I had set up. What it really came
down to each and every time though was my desire to get loaded on heroin was
stronger than wanting to stay clean.
Contrary action that I’m exhibiting today is I am actually
reaching out to my sober support network of people that I have developed
relationships with. Even people that I rarely talk to or see still have lent a
helping hand when needed. That’s the luxury of this program; people are always
there for you regardless but only if you let them be. The rooms of A.A. are the
only place where the Harvard graduate has something in common with a parole
that has spent the last 10 years in prison. We come from all walks of life and
this bond we have is stronger than anything.
What I am trying to get at is the cliché ‘progress not
perfection,’ is a way of life that should be respected in all aspects of life.
Love. Purity. Honesty. Selflessness. Absolutes of all are nearly unattainable
but striving to be perfect in all of them is something to be said.
In the beginning of my attempt to get clean and sober, I
isolated myself from everyone and didn’t reach out to anyone in the meetings.
Little did I know, going to the meetings was the first step to the progress
that I would later become aware of. Slowly but surely every time I came back to
the rooms after a relapse, people would notice. They put themselves out there
for me to take advantage of. Did I? Nope.
However, I did start noticing a change in my behavior. I
started surrounding myself with people with good recovery. We are told to not
judge people in the rooms of A.A. and then five minutes later we are told to
stick with the ‘Winners.’
I kept taking chances and the progress I was making was that
I went from isolation to actually engaging with everyone. I hold the greeter
commitment at three of my meetings which allows me to meet everyone that
comes into the meeting. Would I have done this when I first came into the
rooms? Probably not. Yet I am doing something today that I wasn’t doing when I
first got here. I progressed to where I am at over time. I am far from perfect
in doing this but I strive to be.
Perfection implies an end of something. There is no gray
area with perfection; only black and white. All or nothing; so to speak. If
perfection is my ultimatum then I will most likely never be satisfied.
Frustration will always win and the result will be me giving up. The other
possibility is that I do actually reach perfection but then become stagnate;
complacency is a huge red flag indicator in recovery.
Progress, however, is a different mentality. It implies a
process and everything in this world becomes what it is through a process;
regardless of what it is. It focuses on the now and not the future. I see
progress as celebrating small victories in a large scale war that can never be
won. And every victory, whether small or big, is huge for me in my recovery.
I accept imperfection as a way to strive for perfection. I
know it will never be attainable and if I do attain it then I must be doing
something wrong.
Love this post :]
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