Defiance
1. The act or an example of defying; bold resistance to
an opposing force or authority.
2. Intentionally contemptuous behavior or attitude;
readiness to contend or resist.
Fuck you…fuck you…you’re cool…fuck you. That is how I
viewed everything in life; people, places, things, and principles. If I didn’t
think it was “cool” then I didn’t want anything to do with it. If you had an
ego bigger than mine we just couldn’t be friends. The funny thing is, though, I
followed the rules.
Following the rules allows me to fly under the radar. It
lets me give off the perception that I am doing the “right” thing and it allows
me to manipulate you to the extreme. If manipulation was a sport, I’d be the
MVP of the All-Star game. Being the compliant client in rehab allowed me to get
away with a lot of things that I would otherwise have to do on a normal basis.
It, however, didn’t get me sobriety.
My attitude of defiance permeated into many parts of my recovery.
The role that defiance plays in my life serves me in many ways: and mostly in
counterproductive ways to my goal of being in recovery. It has been extremely difficult deflating my ego to a
point where a humble approach to life is becoming the norm. Defiance is
relatively easy to identify from an outside perspective, however it is far more
difficult for someone to recognize it in him or herself.
Defiance hindered my ability to stay sober in so many
ways all because I wanted to turn my eye away from it. I didn’t want to
acknowledge that I was being defiant. I wanted to argue with you or whatever
principle you were enforcing just because I could. I didn’t want to concede my
sense of identity of being a rebel to the one lone fact that was stalling my recovery
in so many ways.
Being a rebel in rehab was what I loved to do. It wasn’t
until someone said to me that instead of using my energy and influence on
movements that hamper not only my recovery but others as well, use it for a worthy
cause. People look up to me and follow my lead. I was leading so many people in
the wrong direction that once this person told me this, what I was doing didn’t
fully resonate with me.
I’m beginning to enter a new echelon in my recovery where
defiance doesn’t play an integral role in my life. I can’t say I adhere to this
abstinently, but I do recognize and am aware of when I am being defiant. This
is huge for me.
Today, I cease fighting everyone and everything. It’s
better for me to be happy than right. So many things can create obstacles in my
recovery if I let my defiant ways guide me. Defiance leads to another shot of
heroin in my arm. I have plenty of relapses in me but I don’t know if I have
another recovery in me.
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